friendship. It is not; nor is this alignment process a part of the historic understanding of forgiveness. . I can only forgive when and if the other person meets my conditions. We might place conditions on our forgiveness even beyond receiving an apology. We may expect restitution for damages done or require that a person suffer separation from us before we will forgive them. When we compile a list of conditions to place on those we need to forgive, we overwrite God’s instructions. We open